Much Better Days

January 31, 2016

On Saturday, we all drove to Sunapee Mountain.  We arrived around noon.  Robert and his dad skied from the North Peak.  Meantime, I found out that there was a possibility of an afternoon lesson at the NEHSA, New England Healing Sport Association, so I secured one for Robert. He happily went with two instructors.  Almost two hours later, he returned as happy as before.  By introducing “Follow the Leader” game, the instructors enticed Robert to make many left and right turns and thus narrow the wedge between his skis. They said that Robert was listening most of the time, slowing down when asked to do so.  Nonetheless, he kept saying, “Fast, fast, fast.”

On a way home, we stopped at the service area by highway 93.  Robert ate a cheeseburger and a few sweet potatoes fries and didn’t insist on getting regular fries.  That is success.  At home, he initiated laundry realizing that he didn’t have pants for the next day. However, he was too tired, to wait for the end of a washing cycle.  He fell asleep long before he could put wet clothes in the drier.

So all the four pair of pants were wet the following morning when there was time to leave for horseback riding lesson.  Well, that is a lie.  I purposefully didn’t dry the pants in the morning. There was a new pair of pants bought a months before, which Robert had never worn. And I wanted Robert to put that pants  on. Five seconds sufficed to convince Robert to wear this pair together with a new shirt. This might  not be a highlight of Robert’s day but it certainly was a highlight of mine. Usually, it takes much longer to persuade Robert to put on something new.

Robert was leading the horse inside the arena and outside in the corral all by himself.  He trotted by himself. He followed all the directions given by instructor. He did almost everything by himself, because of two reasons:

  1. He knew how to do everything the instructor asked him to do.
  2. The instructor believed in Robert’s ability to perform the tasks, she taught him before.

Sadly when teachers/instructors (well, and mother)  don’t believe in Robert’s ability to do something independently, Robert doesn’t have a chance to prove them otherwise and thus he doesn’t progress.

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